Nature or Nurture?
“Your purpose in life is to use your gifts and talents to help others. Your journey in life teaches you how to do that.” ~Tom Krause
We are all born into certain family environments, in a certain country with an inherent culture, customs, traditions.
And we enter this world with certain gifts or talents, natural inclinations—it’s in our DNA.
Some might lean toward music, or sports, or art, or business, others toward math or science or medicine.
And then life happens.
So, we develop certain coping strategies to survive whatever it was that life handed us.
For some it was abuse, or bullying, or parental neglect. For others it might be death, or loss or isolation.
Sometimes our coping strategies merge mightily with our gifts, enhancing them, and we become stronger, more adept at navigating the rapids and steering towards a more successful life.
Other times, for too many people, our natural strengths are at odds with our coping strategies, and we end up in a lifetime fight against ourselves, struggling against the tide, eventually drowning ourselves. Such is the trajectory of addiction, or bitterness, or martyrism.
“I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become.” ~Carl Jung
Discerning which behaviours and emotional responses are old patterns we built to survive, and which ones which aid us to thrive, is the beginning of helping them to merge.
We are then better able to share our talents with others in a more fulsome way.
Nature or nurture. DNA or environmental influences. Opportunity or determination.
It’s up to each of us to blend them, find the balance point, and stop blaming circumstances for our coping strategies.
Because life demands it.
“Balance, peace, and joy are the fruit of a successful life. It starts with recognizing your talents and finding ways to serve others by using them.” ~Thomas Kinkade